What Makes and Breaks a Good Relationship?

Trust is crucial in order to be in a healthy and successful relationship and without trust, it leads to many problems and further insecurities. In William Shakespeare’s A Midsummer Night’s Dream, forbidden lovers and their two friends leave to the woods at nightfall and are unintentionally put through a series of love spells. The Mechanics, the fairies and the lovers are all connected in a way that each ‘story’ intertwines with each other, in a series of unfortunate events. By examining the relationship between Hermia and Lysander, and the relationship between Demetrius and Helena, I see that in relationships, trusting each other to keep promises and to make decisions is important. Whereas, insecurities play a big role in the obstruction of a relationship. 

Hermia and Lysander’s relationship highlights the importance of trusting your partner when making decisions and overall having an unproblematic relationship. For example, when Lysander explains to Hermia that he has a “widow aunt […] of great revenue” who they can stay with in order to escape the Athenian law and be together, Hermia immediately trusts that he knows what he’s doing and promises to “meet with [Lysander]” the next day (1.1, 157-8). Lysander never questioned Hermia when she agreed to run away with him. There is a great deal of pressure placed on Hermia’s shoulders, whether she should obey her father’s wishes, or follow her’s and Lysander’s. Yet Lysander and herself both trust that she is set on her decision and will follow through. Also, when Hermia wakes up from her bad dream, she yells “Help me Lysander” repeatedly (2.2, 144). The first person that Hermia thinks to call when in trouble is Lysander; from this, I can infer that he has helped her numerous times in the past, showing Hermia that he is a trustworthy individual. When two people in a relationship trust each other, it allows for more freedom, happiness and stability because you feel that your partner is always there for you and will not let you down. 

Unlike Hermia and Lysander, Demetrius and Helena show us how insecurities negatively affect people’s success in having healthy relationships. When Helena begs Demetrius to fall in love with her, it shows us how she needs validation for herself that she’s good enough by having a partner.  Even though she stated before that ‘women are meant to be woo’ed’, Helena is so insecure that she tells Demetrius that the more he rejects and insults her, the more “[she] will fawn on [him]” (2.1, 204).  On the other hand, Demetrius explains to Helena that the more she fawns the less he will like her, and that “[he is] sick when [he does] look on [Helena]” (2.1, 212). I infer that one of the reasons that Demetrius does not want to be with her may be because of how insecure she is. Insecurity leads to disastrous results. In A Midsummer Night’s Dream, the result of Demetrius and Lysander finally loving Helena is her not believing them. This could have resulted in Helena losing three important relationships in her life; Hermia, Lysander, and Demetrius. This is all because of Helena’s insecurities and believing herself unworthy of love, even after wanting it for such a long time.  

By exploring the relationships present in William Shakespeare’s A Midsummer Night’s Dream, we see that trusting your partner brings you closer together, while insecurities often distance us from the ones we love. We can apply this to our lives because relationships play a huge role in the overall happiness and successfulness of your existence. You form relationships with your family, friends, peers and many more people throughout your life, and every relationship somehow shapes you into the person you are, and who you will become. Knowing the makers and breakers of relationships will help every single person because everyone single person is in some kind of relationship. In conclusion, A Midsummer Night’s Dream, provides us with helpful do’s and don’ts when it comes to forming and sustaining relationships. Also, trust can better a relationship while insecurities impede them.  

By Chanel Richards 

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In Depth #4

During this meeting, my mentor and I went over the 40+ signs that she taught me the last meeting. She corrected me, encouraged me, and gave me hints if I was uncertain while showing her the signs that I remembered. My mentor explained to me that “it doesn’t matter if you’re left handed” when signing, as that was something that we had discussed and pondered at the last meeting we had.

With the combination of her teaching and the book that she had lent to me, I learned the more extensive family member signs during our meeting. This included Aunt, Uncle, girl cousin, and boy cousin. I also learned additional phrases and vocabulary that my mentor thought were useful for me to know, such as “maybe later,” or “do you want to play with me?”

This meeting also allowed me to learn more of my mentor’s values. #9 you could learn how people apply values which differ from your own applied to me during this time because she explained to me what she thinks is important for when I am learning ASL. While looking through the ASL book/dictionary that she lent me, my mentor said to me that “these [categories and phrases] would actually be more useful than the definitions” and then she explained why. I was able to see this from her point of view and understand where she was coming from.

#7 questions are also vital to ask for more detail and elaboration around a point. This insight was something  that my mentor and I both used during our meeting. She’d ask me questions about how I am feeling about this project so far and other questions such as ‘do you remember this sign?’ I have asked my mentor clarifications and questions about the signs that she had taught me in the past meetings, to make sure I was doing them correctly. This would prompt her to elaborate further and explain to me even more useful points that could benefit me for this project.

#1: The ability to listen and the enjoyment of listening is a key part of developing a beautiful mind. Near the end of this mentor meeting, I feel that I used this insight well when listening to my mentor. She was explaining her take on which signs she thought were important and she also taught me more signs. I found that I was mainly listening and generated a lot of important questions in my head that I later asked.  I found all of her points very useful and enjoyed taking the information in. This relates to #3 which I strongly agree with; “listening is not just having to wait impatiently until you can yourself speak.” I believe that being able to explore and be open to further topics allows for a successful mentor and student relationship.

Overall, my mentor and I had a very insightful discussion, where I learned a lot. I am looking forward to our next meeting.

 

In Depth #3

These past two weeks, I have made significant progress in learning ASL. My Mentor had given me homework during my first mentor meeting, which was to write down the signs that I do know, and write down 20 signs that I would like to know. This past Saturday, I showed my mentor my completed homework and explained to her in more detail what my goal is for the next few weeks, in terms of signs and phrases that I’d like to learn.

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My completed homework that Ms. Perry gave me.

I also learned at least 30 more signs for animals and foods during our meeting. We also looked though the ASL dictionary that she had lent to me.

We also discussed what categories I will be focusing on in the next few weeks such as Animals, Emotions and feelings, colours and family. Ms. Perry was able to offer me very valuable tips. She told me to “think about [my] window” and to “always sign in [that] specific area.” Though, we also challenged each other with tough questions. I asked her if “[I can] sign with my left hand, since I’m left-handed […] [and if it] matters which hand I decide to sign with.” This ties in to the ‘what if’ statement as it both made us think deeply about this for a while. What if your left hand is your dominant hand? My mentor said the we can both “research about [this]” and reconnect at the next meeting. My Mentor also explained to me, that even though two different words have the same sign, “It’s the context in which you’re signing” that matters. I found these tips to be very useful.

As “how to be interesting #5 Speculation looks forward and opens up new areas of interests.” stated, Ms. Perry and I would have different signs for the same word. This would cause speculation among us both. These speculations cause deeper thinking and more thorough research and study for me to complete. Our disagreements and speculations further deepen my wonder and will to learn ASL. This also ties into #2 to ask for clarification whenever you are unclear or in doubt about something the mentor tells you or shows you. This is because we were both unclear on a certain sign and would need to research for more clarification.

#8 in the chapter ‘How to respond’  explains how you have to extend suggestions and grow them further. My mentor asked me how I might want to present my project and I explained to her that I know that I would like to have a learning station where I can teach people signs. She suggested that I can do that as well as making a video for us to project on the stage.

Overall, I have learned a lot over these past few weeks and I am continuing on learning this interesting language. My mentor has been a great help and role model in this and I can not wait to meet with her again.

Letter to Theseus

Dear Theseus, 

Your honor; I am writing to you as I would like you to kindly reconsider the law you have put forth involving Demetrius and me and let me marry the man I choose to marry. This law states that I either wed Demetrius, or I have the option to die or become a nun. Now, I do not truly love Demetrius; I am in love with a man named Lysander. Lysander is a proper, genuine, and very financially stable man who can make me happier than Demetrius ever could. Lysander and I love each other, meaning that we will live a happy and successful marriage in Athens, and later I shall bear happy children into my family.  

I know that my father, Egeus has ordered me to marry Demetrius as well, but I understand that he just wants me to be happy. My father wants what is best for me, which he thinks is marrying Demetrius. Though, I know that being with Lysander is what will truly make me happy. 

Demetrius is an uncertain and unforeseeable man; therefore, an unreliable husband. Demetrius should be with Helena because they love each other and have had a relationship; everyone knows this. I do not wish to be with a man who I do not love, and who was just in love with someone else such a short while ago. 

I would like you to reconsider the order you have placed for me to marry Demetrius, because as you have read, the outcome of the situation’s cons outweigh the pros. I wish to be allowed to marry Lysander. 

Thank you so much for taking the time to read my letter, 

Sincerely, 

Hermia

In-Depth #2

For my In-Depth project, I am learning ASL. So far into this project, I have learned the alphabet and how to sign numbers from one to twenty. I also know basic questions and how to answer them such as ‘what’s your name?’ ‘How are you?’ I have met with my mentor and talked to her about my goals for this project, and she gave me insights on her opinion on this topic. She explained to me why and when she learned sign language and how much she knows of it. My mentor also explained to me the challenges and triumphs of learning sign language.  

Drawing from what I read about in Edward de Bono’s How to have a beautiful mind, when my mentor and I didn’t agree with each other, or more specifically, we both had a different sign for the word ‘dog’, I didn’t just say ‘no, you’re wrong’ to her. We made a conclusion saying that perhaps one of them was puppy, and the other meant dog. That relates to the tips on how to agree. I found points of agreement in what the other person is saying, and we both made an effort in seeing where the other person was coming from.  

My mentor explained to me that there are two different kinds of sign language to learn. There is English sign language and ASL (American sign language). They’re similar in terms of vocabulary but deaf people will use ASL. My mentor has learned English sign language, but I am practicing ASL. We both have different opinions on which is most helpful to learn, but we are open-minded to the other person’s opinion. My mentor said she’d help me learn ASL, even though she knows English sign language. She learned ESL because her daughter is special needs and used it to communicate when she was younger; I’m learning ASL as a skill for the future, and even a job as an interpreter when I’m older. These are the reasons why we have the different opinion. 

Overall, I have learned a lot, and have been able to make connections and apply tips from the book to my mentor meeting and conversation. My mentor has contributed a great deal to what I have learned so far.  

By Chanel Richards

Final Blogpost

In detailed, paragraph form. Consider including images, links, and other learning evidence from your time in class to add depth to this piece. 

 

  1. What is your inquiry question? What initially drew you to this question? Did your question stay the same, or did it change overtime? Why?

My inquiry question is: In what ways does the perspective of the story change the overall idea, meaning, or concept? I was drawn to this question because it is something that I am unfamiliar in researching it. I don’t have a lot of experience with 2nd and 3rd person because 1st person is the most common and simple for me to write in. Having knowledge on the three perspectives, in general, is a very useful thing to know. This is because you can apply your knowledge from the POV’s to the writing that you do during or outside of school to better understand and write stories. My question stayed relatively the same as it started. Though, after researching quite a bit, I’ve realized that my question is narrowing down to researching the key points of the three POV’s and the pros and cons to each. In my research, the websites never talked about how stories written in different perspectives vary in meaning from one another, but they did mention the key factors to each POV and which to choose in writing your story. What I’ve realized is that a great number of people don’t put a lot of thought into choosing what POV they want their story in. It seems as if some authors might not integrate techniques from each different POV into their stories.

 

  1. What skills have you expanded on / learned during the inquiry process? How are these skills applicable to your success as a student?

I have learned how to be equally strong in writing each different POV. I’ve improved this skill since the start of this inquiry because of the research I have done. Once applying my research in each POV to my writing, I have found that it has been easier to write in 2nd and 3rd perspective. I have also learned how to manage my time and prioritize my work throughout this inquiry project. Time management is needed in a project like this because this inquiry is student led and we don’t have a certain due date for each part of our projects. This means that each student sets goals for themselves and that’s what I did throughout this inquiry project. Prioritization was also a key factor that I had to use frequently. I have also improved other skills such as organization, being able to properly research, and narrowing down the most important key points of all my sources. All these skills are useful to have as a student because being strong in writing in all POV’s will help me improve in English class, time management and prioritization are also important as a student and beyond because these are skills that you will need to have in the future in order to succeed.

 

  1. What did you learn about / what is your answer to this inquiry question? Remember to be specific and provide direct evidence from your research.

In what ways does the perspective of the story change the overall idea, meaning, or concept?

I learned that writing in any of the perspectives can be difficult, but as long as you use the right techniques, you can make your story’s meaning, idea, or concept anything that you choose. In 1st person I understand that the emotional connection to the character is deep but the emotional connections to the other characters may lack. This is because of the reader not knowing the other characters reasons behind their actions. In 2nd perspective, an interesting point I learned is that some people may not like this perspective because they feel as if they are the character in the novel. When people read, they would like to get away from their selves and their reality; when reading in 2nd person they are brought back to their own life.  When researching 3rd person, I made a connection. I realized that dramatic irony is best used in 3rd person because you are not writing from a certain character’s perspective. The reader may know something that the main character/protagonist does not know yet. These are all examples of three interesting points that I learned.

 

  1. In what ways does your final learning artefact demonstrate your learning / answer to your inquiry question? How does it connect to your chosen curricular competencies? Consider listing your competencies and including images, links, or excerpts from your work to demonstrate this.

My final learning artefact will be my three story passages displayed for my peers to read. Each passage will be written in a different POV. I will use the techniques and tips that I’ve learned and apply them to my writing. These passages will demonstrate my answer to my inquiry question because after writing my passages, I can analyze how each of the story’s moods are different and how I applied the techniques to my writing to change the story’s meaning.

  • Exchange meetings and viewpoints to build shared understanding and extend thinking

My learning connects to this competency because my peers edited my passages and gave me tips and their take on my passages and what it means to them. This helped me to see how my peers interpreted my passages and what they didn’t understand about them.

  • Synthesize ideas from a variety of sources to build understanding

I have used multiple websites in my learning for my understanding of each perspective to grow and create inferences about the POV’s. I did this by analyzing the variety of information from all the websites to create a simple understanding on how each POV works and how to write it

  • Explain how literary elements, techniques, and devices enhance and shape meanings.

My learning artefact connects to this because I applied my literary techniques about each perspective, to my final learning product when presenting.

 

 

  1. What resources did you find useful during your inquiry and why were they useful? (Cite at least four resources you consulted, with links, and write a brief 50-100 response as to was important to your learning).

 

https://thejohnfox.com/2016/10/how-to-write-second-person-pov/

This website talks about how to write in 2nd POV and has tips about 2nd POV writing. It includes the pros and cons, and the names of novels written in the POV of 2nd person so the reader can gain experience. This article was useful because there are few websites that have useful information about 2nd POV but this one did.

 

https://www.novel-writing-help.com/writing-in-the-third-person.html

This article is talking about how to write in 3rd person. It’s very specific with each important piece of information it’s giving us. This makes the article very clear so I can fully understand what the author is trying to explain to me. It provides examples and passages of 3rd POV writing also.

https://www.thebalancecareers.com/how-to-start-writing-in-the-third-person-1277439

This article is short, though it’s concise and goes straight to the point. Giving me a brief overview of each POV, then telling me tips and factors to think about when writing in 3rd person, it allows me to gain a simple understanding of 3rd person.

https://www.nownovel.com/blog/points-of-view-8-tips/

This article is useful because it has significant points that I find very useful in this project. They clearly explain each POV with examples and give us eight detailed tips on writing in each POV. This website is clear, practical and thorough.

  1. What new questions do you have about your inquiry? What motivates you or excites you about these questions?
  • Do people prefer one POV over the other? How and why is this?
  • How does an audience of people interpret the POV’s differently? Does it differ with age?
  • How does switching the POV through the same story, change the overall mood?

These questions motivate and excite me because after learning about the different POV’s in story writing, I have realized that there is much more to explore and learn in this subject.

In-Depth Proposal

For my in-depth project, I will be learning ASL (American Sign Language).  My goal is to become relatively fluent in signing and I’d like to be able to understand the fundamentals of the language also. By the end of In-depth I would like to have a comfortable conversation with someone in sign language and perhaps teach some of my peers or friends ASL if they’d like to learn a new language. The biggest challenge for me, for completing my goals for this project, would probably be constructing the sentences fluently. The vocab will be quite simple to learn but constructing them into sentences may be a challenge. I am not certain who my mentor will be, but it’s possible that I could get an EAL teacher who knows ASL, from Gleneagle to mentor me. ASL is an overlooked language and I don’t think that people understand the importance of it. 

I would like to learn this interesting language because I think that knowing ASL can greatly benefit me in the future, in terms of better communication skills and even having a small job as a translator if I choose to. It’ll give me better communication skills because knowing multiple languages really expands your horizons and you are able to talk and bond better with people who don’t speak English.  

I will complete the In-depth project by mid-May. I will present this project by making a learning station with a poster board. I will add all the insights that I have learned and experienced on to my poster board such as the history of sign language, the common phrases, and the alphabet or numbers. For my presentation I will demonstrate to people what I have learned in terms of the phrases. Also, I can teach the students who come to my poster board, how to sign their name, and how to say common phrases such as, ‘what’s your name?’ ‘My name is…’ and ‘How are you’. By celebrating once the project is completed, I will go to snowy village with Kate, Jian, Jasmine and Natasha. Overall, I think that I will learn a lot by teaching myself ASL and I can’t wait to start!

By Chanel Richards